Happy friday!;=)

Good morning everyone and a very happy friday to you all=)

Woke up today and the sun is shining from a blue sky! Well, that surely makes me happy and always gives inspiration;=) Today I really need to go and get some essential stuff for us, like diapers and washing powder and those boring but important things we need all the time;=)

Yesterday I had a long talk to a friend who has a hard time at her job at the moment and we talked about what is important in life and how much we want to sacrifice for our jobs and health. Cause working in a work place where you don't feel welcome and the people around you clearly don't approve of how you are or how you choose to do your job, lead them and so on, can make us ill. To constantly go around and feel that people do not like you, no matter what you do, makes you loose your confidence, it makes you feel alone and vulnerable, it makes you question your abilities and it also can make you constantly walk around in a "fighting" mode, which is a very stressful way of being.

These feelings can be similar to how a bullied or out frozen person feel like when you go to school every day, knowing that no matter what you do or how you act, the people around you will never approve or like you. No matter how hard you try to please them, they won't accept you cause all they see is a "problem". That you are not fitting in to their world and their wishes for everyone around to act or be. It has nothing to do with you, its just that in that group you are different and maybe trigger something someone of them do not like.

To work in a working place where you clearly feel people don't respect you, don't want to listen to your suggestions, where they talk behind your back and go against you all together like a pack, where they make you feel like you are the evil one and telling you that you are the one with problems, being crazy or other things that you know are totally false accusations, is such a stress on your body that you will get ill, tired, sad, depressed and so on.

To continue in a place like this, to try and make them see that you are nothing like that. To make them try and act professional and see that to get a good working place, a good confirmed working group that evolves instead of standing still in the same position and never coming forward in the progress, can make you hope for better days and make you stay far to long in that place. Hope is the last thing that leave us and also, being stubborn and trying to be stronger than you are, can make us stay in an unbearable situation like this.
Also, if you are a person who want everyone to like you, someone who want people you work with to be your friends, you might stay a bit longer in hope for them to feel the same way. But that normally never happens and instead you are the one feeling hurt and getting problems and questioning yourself.

The higher position we get in a job, the higher salary we get, also gives more demands on us, many times makes us sacrifice our family and friends, makes us work way to many hours in the week, makes us having more problems and also, the higher up you get - the more alone you are.

And thats when we have to question ourselves: Is it worth the extra money or prestige in being higher up, to be alone, to get stress related problems, to loose your self-confidence, to feel unhappy when we go to our job every day and so on? Is it worth sacrificing your family, your wishes of ever getting your own family, children and so on? Is it worth it?

If not - get the hell out of there and get a job where you are valued for the great person you are! Don't stay where you are not wished for. There will always be people who do appreciate you and where you "fit in" and if that job is a job with less money for you, less prestige and so on, who cares? Life is to short to be unhappy!

I wish you all a great friday, however you spend it;=) And enjoy life!