... a woman can't look "normal" or not totally anorexic when being a celebrity? Why is it that Lady Gaga is harassed for gaining some weight, which for me, actually is good for her? She has always looked on the verge of anorexic and now when she looks more healthy, she gets rude and mean weight comments all the time.
Why is it that its ok to tell us, women, that we are fat or ugly and so on, when I NEVER read this about a famous man?
Makes me so angry and isn't it better to be healthy, happy and to actually EAT food, than starving yourself so much that you constantly are weak, tired, cranky, depressed, suicidal and look like a walking skeleton?
Now I don't mean that skinny people, who are that by nature, are not ok to look so, believe me, I don't say this towards you!
This is about the ones who aren't naturally skinny and who need to starve themselves to the verge of anorexia, just to be approved and ok in the spotlight of the world. Like actors, singers, models and so on.
Why can't we all be ok with coming in different sizes, shapes and personalities and be accepted and loved for the ones we are?
Like Lady Gaga says, and as I have said so many times: We should all do an effort to try and be nice to each other, all the time!
I am behind you Lady Gaga and every single woman out there that are tired of the stereotyping of women!
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Hi Anette,
ReplyDeleteit's very nice written. When people start to be more satisfied with themselves, they will be more tolerant to ather people.
Well said!!
ReplyDeleteThe double standard is disgusting. But it would not exist if the girls refused to play into it.
Personally--I think skinny is very unattractive. I think a woman who has weight on her bones is gorgeous. A girl who's too skinny... That is not pretty. That's like saying a skeleton is sexy. No thanks.
There's a great documentary called Generation M. It's all about how the media influences girls' ideas about beauty. Girls are brainwashed from a young age to think that they are worthless if they aren't skinny and to think of themselves as sex objects. I wish this documentary were online so I could share it with you. I know you would really like it.
Hello Anette!
ReplyDeleteHow are you? :)
The anorexia is a really bad disease. A few months ago my friend began to lose weight and is now almost a skeleton, so I know what it means having a dear person who suffering to anorexia.
I think that famous people are idols for all of us non-famous. Many people act like the stars they admire even if their behavior is not quite intelligent.
Anyway, I agree with you. I have never read of a famous man who suffers from anorexia. It will be because we are women and most of us are obsessed with how they look.
Enjoy tha Sunday :)
Lots of kisses to you**
Hi :)
DeleteHere's an article about a famous man with anorexia if you're interested!
http://blogs.citypages.com/blotter/2010/06/jeremy_gillitze.php
Thank you so much :)
DeleteHej Anette!
ReplyDeleteJag håller med dig till hundra procent att kvinnor ska kunna äta och må bra och samtidigt bli accepterade hur dem än ser ut.
Men problemet ligger, enligt mig, i könsskillnaderna. Kvinnor genom århundradena skulle vara vackra och väcka avundsjuka hos andra. De skulle även vara förebilder och föregå med gott exempel.
"Våra" kändisar idag har tagit till sig det här konceptet. Män får ju festa och göra nästan vad dem vill utan att få så stora konsekvenser, men när det kommer till kvinnorna så är dem det förnuftiga ansiktet utåt.
Nu lever vi i en sådan tid att vi borde egentligen acceptera alla oavsett hur dem ser ut och är. Men gamla tankebanor är svåra att bryta. Det är därför jag ALDRIG läser skvallertidningar, det dem skriver där får en att må illa då man själv inte passar in i den här "perfekta" modellen.
Sånt här skulle man kunna skriva en hel uppsats om, vilket jag också har gjort, så det jag har skrivit här är väl en sorts sammanfattning.
Ha en bra dag :)
//Ellinor
I hate it when people in the media do this, and I really don't understand why. As for people outside of it, I think it's done out of jealousy. Either that or it's because they don't like a person's music/art, but they know that they'd be wrong to suggest that it wasn't technically good so they slam other aspects of the person instead. For example, there are a lot of people who hate what Gaga does but that doesn't change the fact that she's extremely talented, so they feel they have to find other reasons to 'hate' her. It's pathetic.
ReplyDeleteI feel it's worth pointing out that while you don't tend to get this slamming of men's bodies, they are pressured to look a certain way by the media just as women are. I don't know if it's the case everywhere, but in the UK you frequently get gossip magazines with features like 'torso of the week', and there is never any representation of men who are less muscular. Male anorexia is also becoming increasingly common in the modelling industry.
I think the reason people don't take this as seriously as with women is because a picture of a topless woman in the media is seen as worse than a topless man because men's chests aren't eroticised in the same way, for example. In my opinion there needs to be an end to all objectification and dehumanising, in all of the genders.
Best wishes!
xx
It'd be incredibly hard to try and put an end to objectification of the different genders, however I believe relating to human sexuality, and eroticism, it should be taught to treat individuals with dignity and respect instead of seeing someone as merely a sex object.
DeleteShould also add, with the idea of perfection that is touted in media of women who are very very thin and men who are very muscular, and the shaming of women are not particularly thin, also those are overweight, and men who are either small and skinny, or overweight, not only are they shamed, but those who are attracted to them are also shamed for not being attracted to someone who is not 'conventionally attractive'.
the point is that she sells herself as a slim girl so people expect her to be that...
ReplyDeleteI had Anorexia once and I wanted to weight 29 kilos. Now I came over it and eat what I want!
ReplyDeleteMy dad made some sushi and it looks delicious! I earned €22,- from my babysiting! I think I'm just to thin now(I'm not I know but I look very thin) Oh and friday I was waiting for my bus and some guy came so me and said:'Are you gothic?' So I laughed and said;'Nope, I'm myself.' That guy was staring at me with a supid face.
I watched Jackass 2 yesterday and I think it is gross but funny. So sorry for my strange story's!
Kisses!
It's like this because it is socially accepted to look like this - more and more skinnier..if you don't look like that you're not accepted by society in the same way as the skinny people are. It's also a wide known fact that you actually can lose weight with a diet, so if you don't people assume you're lazy and want to look like this. Being skinny is considered healthy, and being fat is considered unhealthy.
ReplyDeleteI don't think this will change very soon..
Then again, I am one of those "skeletons" as you say, but I can't do anything about it because it's in my genes. And believe me, it's not easy for us either. Especially when people are constantly asking if you're sick, or sometimes they don't even ask, they just assume you're anorexic. Even skinny people have huge problems with self-esteem because we look like this.
Point of this being - nobody is ever going to be looking good enough in the eyes of society. Even if you have the perfect body, people will find something else in you that is "wrong".
The best way to go through this is not giving a damn what others think about how you look. This is the best way for you to be happy - if people in your life don't accept you the way you are and the way you look.. well maybe then you should consider about changing your company. It's still better to be alone, than to be with people that are constantly putting you down and make you hate yourself.
T.
I don't like anorexic women, I rather like women with some weight and of regular body, looking healthy.
ReplyDeleteI had a rant written but accidently refreshed.... F*CK!
ReplyDeleteAnyway, I'll try again.
Personally, I think the biggest issue with stereotyping of women is of course, the underlying misogyny, and particularly that we are expected to fit into this pigeon hole of 'acceptable' and if we don't fit we're somehow deserving of being treated poorly. Of course we should be all treated with respect and loved for being who are as individuals, as human beings are incredibly diverse, and stereotyping minimises and stigmatises diversity. Just because we're not all super-thin does not mean there is something wrong with any of us, not everyone is meant to be super-thin. Most of all my main concern is that women are subjected to such treatment, and to be at all feminine, even fitting into the stereotypes and supposed 'norms' we are still treated poorly, as the very base of basically any stereotype is something negative, in the case of femininity, anything and anyone perceived as feminine are perceived as weak, whether they are female or actually male, and adversely, if woman behaves in a way perceived as masculine, some idiot will probably insinuate that she must be a lesbian, or as so many so eloquently put it, a 'dyke'. Just as a whole regarding all groups, stereotyping does need to be challenged as all it does is minimise the diversity of a demographic and the dignity of the individuals within that group.
Oh my god,you're turning into a feminist *happy cry*
ReplyDeleteI've been saying this for AGES.So thank you for saying it once more.I've just finished a paperwork for school about this subject,by the way.
Society sells us a fake and unrealistic stereotype of body,and we're expected to follow it.Models on most ads aren't even real:they have a model's nose,another's legs,someone else's butt,and so on.They're made on PS (not all the time,of course,but in most cases).And then we're told that we have to look like that - which is,physically,impossible.Women are constantly shown unreachable standards,and people still wonder why so many girls are affected by easting disorders?Oh,please.With men it's different (I'm not saying they're not under pressure to look good):if a male celebrity decides he doesn't care to 'look hot',and gains a few pounds,everybody will support him and his decision,because people see men as creatures,not only sexual objects.But when a female does that,she lose half of her appeal,because the audience is used to seeing girls only as sexual objects that are meant to look sexy,nothing more.It's such a twisted,sick,women-degrading way of thinking,it makes me want to puke.
I wish more people knew about Gaga's Body Revolution,because it's honestly the best thing she's done so far.Not accepting stereotypes we're told to reach,and wanting to accept our bodies for what they are,with all their flaws and their differences,is the biggest challenges of all.Loving our own body is already hard by itself,without the need of society pushing us to hate it.
I'm so thankful and happy you're ready and feel the need to talk about these problems.It looks like everybody thinks the things we're shown are okay,but it's not true!Body image is the plague of our century,and I wish more adults wanted to talk about it.It's not only a "teen's" problem.
Once again you reminded my why I look up to you so much.,Thank you.Thank you.
Have a great day,
xx
Your words are so true. I was called fat and so on in my class because I dont look like size zero. I am not fat, I have a normal weight. Because of my disease I tend to weigh to much but I dont . I think the "optimal women" (we always see in models, advertising etc.) is under normal BMI. And that isnt good, they should show normal healthy persons. And the fact is that in PE lessons I often was better as the people who call me fat. I do some sport because I want to be fit but actually I am happy with my appearance. I am not perfect- but nobody is perfect.
ReplyDeleteThank you for the wise words
love and hugs Saskia
I totally agree with you Anette. Funny, I was just having this conversation with someone at work the other night. She seems to think she has to starve herself (and make herself miserable doing it), to be happy and accepted. Hmmmm...make yourself miserable to be happy. Makes sense to me...NOT! This is one of my most talked about topics because a lot of women I know seems to have this opinion that you have to look like Jack Skeleton to be sexy or attractive. Why? Of course,it doesn't help that there are a lot of men out there who will bash a woman if her ribs are not poking out of her skin (All the while he is carting around some extra baggage himself). So could this be a guy problem? Or could it be the fashion industry who mostly use these kinda models to advertise and sell their product. A kind of brainwashing. "You won't look good in this unless you LOOK like this." Maybe both...I don't know. Since you were in the spotlight, did you ever feel under pressure while in NW that you had to look a certain way? Be a certain weight? Not saying that you did, just wondering if it was ever a issue that was brought up as you were the center focus of the band. And if it was, I hope you told them to stick it where the sun don't shine!! :^)
ReplyDeleteAnd as you pointed out, Anette, I am not complaining about the ones who are naturally skinny. You ladies are fine. Just the ones who go out of their way to have a near death experience to look that way. This also kinda falls into the topic of just being true to yourself.
From this guys point of view, I never really cared for that anorexic look and never thought less of someone because they had a little extra on them. As you said, I think a little weight looks more healthy than the too skinny look. Besides, who wants to see some poor woman get tossed around the room when someone walks in and turns on a ceiling fan!! C'mon ladies, don't buy into that nonsense. Being yourself is what truly makes you beautiful!!
Why not? Because society likes it to make girls/women insecure about their appearance. They say that you're good the way you are, and when you're starting to believe that, they'll bring you down.
ReplyDeleteHumanity is just cruel...
Thank you for writing this!! You brightened my day :) last year I increased weight 15 kilos because of a medicament I took and this depresses me still. I lost about 10 kilos so far but I still think I'm fat. When everyone tells you you are fat and ugly you start to believe them.. I started eating almost nothing, but after a month I was totally weak and tired so I started eating healthy food - as I dif before I increased weight - and doing sports and I feel much better now.
ReplyDeleteIncreasing weight so fast - in 3 weeks!! - really changed my life. I mean, I still go to school, and I think I still have an unhealthy attitude towards my body.
You were my inspiration for doing sports, you postings about running etc really motiveted me and gave me strengh, and I want to thank you for this. You're a wonderful person :)
Hugs, Eva
Hi Anette. I'm really glad you posted this just now. I'm visiting home, and was clearing out some of my older clothes. They reminded me that in my later teenage years I was ridiculously skinny (US size 0, UK 4).
ReplyDeleteI didn't realise it at the time, but looking back, I had a severe eating disorder. When I started putting weight back on, I found it hard to stop-not because I was unhealthy, because I eat very healthily and exercise regularly. I think that my body now just grabs on to any calories that it can for fear of losing them again!
However going through my old stuff was really upsetting me, and made me feel so fat. It is very frustrating, and I shouldn't feel the need to lose weight again as I am now probably in the upper side of the 'normal' category, but the whole media fixation on being overly skinny makes it unavoidable. A few times I've found myself leaning towards not eating to be skinny again, like today, but when people like Lady Gaga and your self stand up to these public stereotypes, I find it really helpful. Thanks :)
Keep well!
I just agree with you so much!!! And why can't we finally accept every body is different and beautiful in its own way?! Why do we all have to look the same?
ReplyDeleteAlso, since you mentioned anorexia, there are women who are naturally thin. But if those thin women are also famous, they are going to point them because they are anorexic. How do you know? One can be slim and healthy, but one can also have breasts and hips and be healthy too. I mean, famous women are always the target for rude comments about their weight and looks. If they are very thin, then they are surely anorexics, but if they are not so thin, they are fat. What the hell is that, for the sake of who do people write those stupid, rude opinions?
It's sad because it's these famous people who incluence us and become our role models when we're very young. And how can a teenager not be insecure when these amazing famous people with really great bodies get so much hate for gaining/losing weight?
Thanks for posting this, I totally agree.
ReplyDeleteI remember a night in a club, there was five or six guys "grading" women loudly (and I´m talking about adults, not kids). When I walk to the toilet they yelled "that´s a four", and they laughed like crazy. The first thing I thought was that I didn´t say anything bad to them so, why the agression? I guess it was a way to feel "powerful".
Anyway, you are right, we don´t have to fit a stereotype to feel attractive and to enjoy life. Thank you and big hugs from Stockholm!
Annette, I admire you so much for being so outspoken and that continue "to do you". I think you are a very sweet and kind-hearted woman and you are also very beautiful. Have a wonderful day :)
ReplyDeleteHey Anette!
ReplyDeleteI kinda understand what you say. I´m fighting anorexia on my own, and at the moment it kinda works. But there´s always times when I look at pictures of all this celebrity-skinnies and still want to look like them, although I remember perfectly how terrible you feel then.
You know, this post means a lot to me. I always thought how beautiful you are, and you look healthy and happy and everything. I wish I could think of you as a role-model to get out of my eating disorder. I cannot since there is and tere always will be poor Isabelle Caro in my head; but I hope that somewhen I will be able to accept myself the way I am. But it´s the process of gaining weight that scares me. If my body was healthy, I don´t think there would be too many problems. But to gain this, I would have to gain weight... And I´m not able to without becoming suicidal -.-
But anyhow, I need to thank you. You spread good feelings and your blog helps me through some hard times at the moment, I love the way you communicate with us and, being a hobby-author, the most important point for me is that you actually made me do some poetry again. The first poem I wrote for months, and it´s not the best one, but it´s a lot lighter than my others, it sounds not like a cheap Emilie Autumn-copy and it shows really how I feel now. It´s dedicated to you, Anette, since you are the reason why I could write it.
If you want to read it, you find it here: http://lostin-a-maze.blogspot.de/2012/11/dedicated-to-anette.html
Thanks a lot for everything!
Love, Betty
Amen to that!
ReplyDeleteHi Anette! :)
ReplyDeleteI agree with everything you say.
I think this problem with how woman are portrayed in the media has it's roots from the start of the history of showbusiness and it's stuck ever since. That showbusiness woman, generally, have always meant to be seen as glamourous. For example, anyone remember Marilyn Monroe visiting the troops during one of the wars ( I can't remember which one ) that has been fought during the history of this planet. And the troops all having pictures of her in their sleeping quarters.
As humans I think there is something within all of us ( in our deep psyches or souls )that determines what we see as beautiful or desirable and that's the reason we all have a natural awe of beauty. Or our own personal interpretations of what we see as beautiful, attractive, good looking, etc. I think this provides us with our drive to make ourselves look as good as possible despite our different shapes, sizes, physical imperfections, etc. And the media does not help...
Obviously I'm not a woman but I do believe the media has a lot to answer for when it comes to how they portray woman. Unlike you Anette I have never ever been in showbusiness. When I go to work only a small amount of people see me from day to day. So despite the human inner desire to look good that I mentioned earlier sometimes I can't be bothered to shave before I go to work. I accidentally saw myself in the mirror at work the other day, sideways on, and although I'm not drastically overweight it looked as though I could do to loose just 1 stone.
Even though it's morally wrong I think part of the reason there is generally pressure on female celebs to always look there best could be due to the fact that in showbusiness they are exposed to hundreds, thousands, even millions of people on a daily basis. When you know the whole world is watching you the film crewes, record companies, want you to look good not just because the whole world is watching but also they are trying to sell a product. Anette, during your time in Alyson Avenue or Nightwish, has a member of the record company ever said to you, or even one of your male band colleagues, just before you are about to go on stage, something along the lines of 'see my skin shine, see my skin glow'?
So it all has a tremendous knock on effect when woman watch it on tv and wish they were as glamourous or good looking. When I say that Anette I'm not saying you are responsible for some of the misery caused. I think it depends on the area of showbusiness you work in. As someone who sings for rock bands you work in an area of showbusiness that is totally different from, say for example someone like Kate Moss who works in the modelling area where there is tremendous pressure to be thin etc. Anette, you set an excellent example of how a woman should be. You seem to do thing's within a reasonable level. What I mean by that is, for example, that I'm sure you do care about your appearance but you don't seem obsessed with dieting, etc. In other words you get the balance of things correctly. And although I've never personally met you, you seem to be a nice person by the way you try to answer ( interact ) our posts on your blog which I think is brilliant :)
That all these girls ( and women ) who for some reason already have very low self-esteem, view all these air brushed photos and film footage of these glamouous, famous, female celebs with very rich attractive boyfriends, husbands, wish they were, what they think is, as good looking as these celebs. It causes alcoholism, drug taking, anorexia, self-harm, suicide, etc.
And it's deep rooted at the start of the history of showbusiness combined with that natural awe of beauty we all have deep within our souls. And the media does not help this...
Morning my lady, i see you had a lot of fun watching horror movies yesterday =) that's good and you were gorgeous by the way!
ReplyDeleteMorning my lady, i see you had a lot of fun watching horror movies yesterday =) that's good and you were gorgeous by the way!
Good times when be 'fat ' was a fashion thing! haha
Well, I really don't know why people keep doing this, I don't like gaga at all but she was a brave women who told that the reason she was skinny was because she was a bulimic person and now she's ok because she stopped doing this and STILL theres a lot of people that keep saying: shes fat, shes ugly and blablabla I know how much that hurts, i not a celebrity but i'm over what my weight was supposed to be and i get those comments all the time, you're fat, and this and that and blablabla i passed the fase that I cared about this and actually sweetie there's this guys Petri Lindroos from Ensiferum, he was SO SKINNY and now he's a little chubby and guess what? the comments that i see in every video of them is petri is fat, petri is ugly know, he used to be so beautiful, seriously, i hate people that judge someone by the way they look, for me they have nothing between their ears, and actually that doesn't only with singers, there's models as well that refuse to starve and decide to be healthy and people thing it's the worst thing ever like Kate Upton.. she's beautiful and curvy and people say she shouldn't be modelling because she's fat and blablabla I mean how brainwashed are these people? stupid, just stupid!
I saw something really nice about that subject . I'm gonna put for you here!
The girl posted this pic and then this text:
http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_mbdqxfScWW1rcl1t2o1_1280.jpg
" WARNING: Picture might be considered obscene because subject is not thin. And we all know that only skinny people can show their stomachs and celebrate themselves. Well I’m not going to stand for that. This is my body. Not yours. MINE. Meaning the choices I make about it, are none of your fucking business. Meaning my size, IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS.
If my big belly and fat arms and stretch marks and thick thighs offend you, then that’s okay. I’m not going to hide my body and my being to benefit your delicate sensitivities.
This picture is for the strange man at my nanny’s church who told me my belly was too big when I was five.
This picture is for my horseback riding trainer telling me I was too fat when I was nine.
This picture is for the girl from summer camp who told me I’d be really pretty if I just lost a few pounds
This picture is for all the fucking stupid advertising agents who are selling us cream to get rid of our stretch marks, a perfectly normal thing most people have (I got mine during puberty)
This picture is for the boy at the party who told me I looked like a beached whale.
This picture is for Emily from middle school, who bullied me incessantly, made mocking videos about me, sent me nasty emails, and called me “lard”. She made me feel like I didn’t deserve to exist. Just because I happened to be bigger than her. I was 12. And she continued to bully me via social media into high school.
MOST OF ALL, this picture is for me. For the girl who hated her body so much she took extreme measures to try to change it. Who cried for hours over the fact she would never be thin. Who was teased and tormented and hurt just for being who she was.
I’m so over that.
THIS IS MY BODY, DEAL WITH IT.
and FUCK YOU ALL who tried to degrade my being and sense of self with your hurtful comments and actions"
Nice to know there's still people like her on earth!
Sorry for the long comment and have a nice day sweetie =)
I agree with you. If someone really wants to loose weight they can do it in healthy way, not starving themselves. There are lots of sports they can do and eat normal. It will take time but the results will come.
ReplyDeleteEnjoy the day :)
I agree with you, Anette! many women tries to be skinny because this is "right", this is "beautiful", everyone wants it, this is "original" or ideal of beauty for many women and people... It is very funny for me because this is not right!! This type of thinking is pointless...Everyone is beautiful from the inside :-)
ReplyDeleteyou are totally right! what is so beautiful about women who look totally unhealthy and starved? that arent good rolemodels for young girls who see them on tv, in magazine etc. and think they have to be so skinny to be succesful or beautiful! and then try to starve themselves to look like that! one of my friends has anorexia and she told me that in the beginning of her sickness all she wanted was to look like those models and actresses and singers, and now she is seriously sick and has been on weights that could have nearly killed her!
ReplyDeletethis world can be so fucked up!
I'm totally at your side. I don't know how so many pretty girls/women can be caught by the american media. It's a shame because it effects the young girls the most. It's unbelievable how many girls who are merely 12 or 13 years old stop eating and begin to look so unhealtyly thin. I think it is most important to convey espacially those young girls a feeling of being wonderful the way they are so that they can bring this attitude into our society.
ReplyDeleteI know many different kinds of women and I can just tell that there is another thing that makes you way much prettier than any outer appearance and that is sympathy. If you are a good and authentic person there's no chance you can look other than beautiful in the eyes of the people who care about you; and about those who don't care, you also don't have to care! So there's no need to diet yourself to death. Staying healty by eating good food, making some sports and sometimes allowing yourself a few unhealty mood-makers ;) that's how to enjoy life to the fullest and to start shinig from your inside with all your joy and beauty.
That's what I think :)
Very well said Anette. A woman shouldnt have to feel the need to change her body due to someones rude opinion. Thats just messed up. And yea ive heard a lot of comments about lady gaga being fat and so on,but I think she looks absolutely beautiful.
ReplyDeleteUnfortunately anorexia is a great disease, but some people call it "perfection". And, as you said, this is become a "problem" for only women.
ReplyDeleteWe all can see on television beautiful girls, called "perfect", they have success only because of their bodies...so we all think that for being appreciated we need to be like them. Tall, slim and flawless. And this can carry us to self-destruction.
I have a friend of mine who suffers from anorexia, she isn't aware of that problem, the more she feels skinny, the more she feels better, and I really don't know how to help her.
There is a song from the band "The Agonist" (Business Suits and Combat Boots) which says "Physical flaws are a mental blank"...totally agree whit that. Sad to know that is blank is filled by all those stupid and sensless stereotypes.
Dear Anette:
ReplyDeleteI completely agree with you. The beauty standards are completely distorted now days.
Everyone is different and we should accept them by who they are, not by how the look. People need to stay healthy, that's all.
And if you let me, I would like to share something personal with you:
I personally relate to what you're saying. I battled against anorexia myself. ¿Weird for a guy, right? All the the way through middle school and my first year of high school I got so bullied because of my weight (I wasn't obese or anything like that, just a little overweight) by classmates, my older brother and my father; so i got a severe depression and I started to starve. In less than 3 months I lost more than 30Kg of weight. My height is 1.83mts and in the worst time of the anorexia my weight dropped down to 53Kg. I was so thin that my doctor was pretty sure that I would get a cardiac arrest or kidney failure any day. But, with the support of my brother (not the one that bullied me) my mom and friends I got over the anorexia. That was almost 7 years ago, I'm 24 years old and since then I have maintained a healthy weight. But the sad part is that the anorexia, never really leaves you. One is always concerned by their weight, and there's like a little paranoia that stays with you forever.
Since then I've tried to maintain positive and smile to life. But unfortunately my mental health has his ups and downs. Last year I got a mayor depressive episode (for different reasons) and I was on the verge of killing myself. And the thing that pulled my through that horrible episode were my family, my friends and music. The music that you and Nightwish crated together. And for that I want to say "thank you". And the fact that you are now supporting anti-bulling means a lot to me as a fan.
Well, that's all I wanted to share. You are truly an inspiration, hugs and kisses. :)
Hi, Anette!
ReplyDeleteIt's so strange, but I want to stay anorexic.I understand that isn't good, but I tired of being fat! I do sport...It halps but only for some... I don't like anorexic people, but want to be it oneself...One of my coplex...
With Love,
Tanya=)
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ReplyDeleteI know! It's awful. I'm overweight, and while I should loose some weight for health reasons, I hate the added pressure to lose it for social reasons. I couldn't be a model or be famous because then people would judge me even more than they do now. The double standard is horrible.
ReplyDeleteThe worse one I never get is "Large guy gets hot wife" never "Large woman gets hot husband" on any of these shows, or books. It makes it harder to accept the idea that a man who really loves you will love you for who you are on the inside. Though honestly, if they didn't, then what is love? But that's another discussion :P.
<3 Lauren
Well said indeed! :) I'm also proud of Christina Aguilera for having curves and not trying to lose them or doing what the producers want. She is, I quote, "a singer, not a doll".
ReplyDeleteHave a nice day with your loved ones =)
Andromeda said that you´re not acceptet, if you don´t look skinny.
ReplyDeleteThat´s totally wrong! No one is "accepted" if you´re skinny neather.
I mean: Kate Moss, Mary-Kate Olson, Mischa Barton, Bill Kaulitz, Madonna...All those people had a time in their lives were they were quite skinny and the media slashed them, too!
I think the oppinion of our society that you have to be thin is totally overrated! If you are thin you are an outsider, too.
I am really skinny and I guess I´ve got some problems that´s danger I am not aware of but although I am in the so seemed "perfect picture of a perfect body" I get to hear jokes everyday and I know that people talk behind my back. I hear their whispers, I can see it in their faces an eyes.
I would never say that underweight-sicknesses aren´t dangerouse. But I´d prefer beeing underweighted that overweighted.
Anorexia and sicknesses simular to that have the "advantage" that you see the danger. You can see how people lose their hair, you see every bone.
Overweighted people recognize the consequences just when it's too late.
They can say that Beth Dito is just an amazing personality because she goes her way. But soon she´ll regret her oppinion and her lifestyle.
I just wanted to say with that that it´s precisely NOT better to have some kilos more. It´s as dangerouse as beeing too skinny.
I also wrote I'm not being totally accepted for being too skinny ;) there are two sides on this story. I mostly write from what I've seen myself about girls and women not being accepted for being overweight. For the people here it is still common to prefer skinnier women than obese. Of course, under skinny I don't mean the extreme.
DeleteThis brought tears to my eyes! So beautiful!!! <3 I feel the same way about how guys are looked upon in ads and movies. I know I personally am not built like a greek good or have the abs like one either. I hate how a lot of girls, especially where I live think all guys have to look like what guys do in movies or in underwear ads. They never give me a chance. I have been blown off so many times for dates because I didn't look cute enough and wasn't worth their time. (yes people have actually said this to me before) They never look at my personality, that's what really counts in it all, not if you have abs of steal or anything like that. I hate how society around the world is saying if you don't have this body type and don't look like this its not ok. Everyone should be proud of what they were born with. Don't let society dictate what you should and should not look like. Love who you are, not who society tell you to be.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you 100 %
ReplyDeleteIn "real" life a lot of men like curves because it is sexy .
And i think curvy woman are much prettier healthier and sexier than a skinny one. =)
Know that I love you regardless of your shape or size. Always found you beautiful =)
ReplyDeleteI have one more thing to say:'' Anette is a sexy mom !!'' hahahahaha you remember that? I found it so funny =)
have a great day, hugs
Weight issues has always been a problem in this world. People think that if you are a celebrity you have to look like a skeleton in order to fit in and be popular. I think it's so important to accept everybody just the way they are but also you have to accept yourself. But you know, there's another thing that bothers me (since I have my own experience with it): some people who are overweight in a dangerous way say to themselves it's ok to eat whatever they want and sit all day in front of the television and they have so many excuses to keep their unhealthy lifestyle. Some don't know or don't care about the danger with being obese - cardiac problems, being tired all the time, pressure on the joints, diabetes and so on. I recently lost 34 kilos and my life looks completely different now in a much better and healthy way. The best thing in life is to have balance and not to be too much fat or too much skinny.
ReplyDeleteYou're right Anette, it's so sad to see how the media and people's attention in general are so much focused on our bodies and on appearance.
ReplyDeleteOf course, being strongly overweight or anorexic is a serious problem, and that's why I am so upset when I see it being used randomly to define women who are skinny or have softer traits.
I also totally agree with what Andromeda has written up here. I'm one of those skinny girls too, and things have never been easy. Recently a bad allergic reaction weakened me and made me lose a bit of weight, and seeing people who define thin women with terms such as 'skeleton', 'broomstick' or 'twig' is not so pleasant, especially if your mood is already a bit down.
I think that the most important thing is feeling healthy and fine with ourselves, but when they will start considering us mainly as women with our own personality, it will be a huge step forward for everyone.
And by the way, I appreciate so much how you sometimes focus on themes such as bullying and other issues here in the blog. Have a nice evening and a nice week :)
I'm agree with you, but i have to say that i had read mean comments about a famous man. Guess who i'm talking about? I'm talking about Peter Tagtgren. Yes, i read stupid comments about his look when he is compared to Johnny Depp. It's sad. I'm totally not agree with them.
ReplyDeleteGreat text Anette :) totally agree with you!
ReplyDeleteHii Anette! Yes I agree with you that the world is an extremely cruel place when it comes to physical appearance and self image. When did it become this way? Why is the world so shallow nowadays? Having a healthy figure is much more appealing than having a stick-figure.
ReplyDeleteHowever I have to disagree that only women are victim to this cruelty. Alot of men nowadays are anorexic and just as paranoid about their weight and appearance. Topman UK promotes this super-skinny male look in its stores. It's really shocking!
Personally I used to be overweight when I was younger, and I used to get bullied alot. And because of this I was constantly going through eating disordered and emotional stress. And because I was always starving myself or making myself ill I am now left with a permanently damaged stomach which I get bad acid reflux with.
I am a healthy weight now, only because I learned to eat healthy and exercise. But most importantly, I learned to feel happy about my appearance and appreciate myself. This is very important and no one has the right to tell you there is something "wrong" about you.
As Eleanor Roosevelt once said: “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
Have a lovely evening, Anette; it's really nice to see someone taking these issues so seriously :) James x
Lady Gaga admitted she gained weight and she said something like, she doesn't care even a tiny bit about it :D :D
ReplyDeleteAndrea: Hi! No, the reason why I wrote this in the first place is because I read an interview with Lady Gaga where she wonders why people say these things about her weight gain and also she compares to Adele and why no one says these things about her. She also said she had struggled with her weight for a long time.
ReplyDeleteJames: Hi and thanks;=) yeah, I know men have pressure too but what I meant is that its not so often I have read or seen comments about men having gained weight and have a belly, Its much more criticizing women's bodies, unfortunately.
Yuzuki: Hi and thanks;=)
Black Crow; Hi! Ok, but is it that they call him "fat" or something or just that he doesn't look like Jack?
Svanhildr: Hi and thanks;=) And of course, as I wrote, I don't mean that any skinny person is an anorectic person, its not the skinny ones who are that by nature I talk about, but people who really starve themselves and either do not eat or are bulimic and throw up or ortorexic and are exercising to much and eating to healthy. And of course obesity is not a good ideal either, but I mean that the "normal body should be the norm. Not a size 0 and adult women in the age of 35-50 looking thinner than their daughters and always going on a diet. Its not healthy to starve and if you are a public person I think its important to know what kind of impact you have on teenagers and children. And if Lady Gaga has gained some weight, so whats the big deal? Maybe she feels better this way and why do people need to say mean things then? Its not nice and totally no right of anyone to judge her for how she looks. She´s a singer and a performer and shouldn't have to take these stupid comments. None of us should, cause I have too. If people could manage their own lives and bodies instead that would be much nicer=) Take care now;=)
Orit: Hi and yes, I agree with you about the overweight thing too. Of course its not ok to accept a big overweight and continue to eat unhealthy and in many lives endanger your life either. As I wrote in the former comment: a normal weight is what we all should try to have. Neither to low weight or to high. Cause both are dangerous to your body. Take care!
Thanks for taking some time for answering comments :) perhaps I didn't express myself perfectly, but of course I wasn't referring to you when talking about people who tend to categorize skinny people as anorexic, or curvy people as obese. It's something that in general happens quite often, and it can cause many damages too. And you're totally right when you say that the most important thing is taking care of our bodies without starving, and being healthy above all. If there's so much pressure on 'common' people, I can't really figure out how a public person might feel about it. People should be more careful before commenting or judging other people's appearance.
DeleteThanks again and take care too :)
Perhaps men don't get this pressure the same because because there isn't so much pressure, generally speaking, to look good like women. Although you do get men who have similar feelings about feeling they should look a certain way to be attractive, for example, body builders, and of course men can suffer with eating disorders such as anorexia too. I know what you mean though, Anette, a lot of what you find in the media is related to how women look.
ReplyDeleteI think a curvy woman carrying a bit of meat on her bones is much more attractive than a walking skeleton. It's sad how some people do whatever it takes to look attractive, even if they are risking their health big time.
Yes, the main comments was about "does he look like Depp or not?", but also i've seen comments that says that he's too skinny or fat. I find it too stupid, because i think he's absolutely normal.
ReplyDeletePeople find it normal to say the same things about women, ok. But i can't understand what the hell they started saying that towards men?! It's stupid.
And i don't appreciate those who are saying something like that about women. It's also stupid acts, the main part of women are bullied, they fall into depression and starting take different medications just to be skinny! Huge mistake...
Anette,
ReplyDeleteAs much as I appreciate and agree with what you are trying to say here, some of your word choices may be viewed as offensive. People don't simply "look" anorexic. Anorexia is a serious mental disorder which interferes with every aspect of life and can eventually lead to death. Stuff like this can be very triggering to people who are suffering or have suffered with anorexia and other eating disorders.
Stay strong and healthy <3
I am a longtime little monster, a love which bordered on obsession a year or two back before I reigned it in a bit. During that time, however, I read two biographical books about Lady Gaga and watched countless interviews. I know that growing up she was tormented by a group of girls who picked at her weight and big nose. Even though she was probably a healthy weight compared to the likely starved state of the popular girls and cannot control the way her nose is because of her Italian genes, it still got to her. We all have those things that we are insecure about that people will use to hurt us.
ReplyDeleteI cannot imagine what it must be like to be Lady Gaga. I have no desire to become famous after witnessing what stars have to go through. Those insecurities never truly go away and to have them pointed out and ridiculed by not only a group of mean girls, but by millions across the globe... that has to be horrifying. I remember how skinny she looked in Telephone and I'm glad that she's finally starting to look healthier. I just hope that with our support that she can see past all of this crap and remain strong. I will stand behind her all the way and pray that she doesn't relapse into the anorexia that she admitted to a while back.
I don't get what the fascination is with skeletal women.
Anette, I know this is a little off topic, but this subject is very close to my heart. I suffered for almost a decade from Anorexia and Bulimia. It did a lot of damage to my mind, body, and spirit of course, but it also did a lot of damage to my singing voice. When my eating disorder threatened to take away my ability to create and be a part of music, the thing I love most in this world, I just stood there and let it take me. Nothing, not even music, was enough to keep me from starving and purging. That's a sad point to be at in life.
ReplyDeleteI have had two great healing comforts that have helped me recover. First of all, the singers I admire most like you, Simone Simons, Diana Damrau, etc., look NOTHING like the photoshopped pop stars on magazine covers. You're all drop dead gorgeous with beautiful voices and realistic, womanly bodies. None of you have the exact same body shape, but you all look healthy. Not bony. That was a hint to me that being skinny didn't help me as a vocalist at all, and the best singers were the ones who seemed to be taking care of themselves.
Secondly, I'm now a mother. That changes a lot about how you view your body- suddenly, it's sacred. It's carried life. Abusing it and hating something that's taken part in the beautiful process of creating life just doesn't make any sense now. I think moms, in particular, should love their bodies. They've produced miracles!
Thank you for being so healthy and always promoting a good self image on your blog. It means a lot to us young women who look up to you and admire you. When a singer or "celebrity" we admire thinks and acts in a healthy way, it helps combat what the media and Hollywood throw at us.
Kay: Thanks for your comment;=)
ReplyDeleteDon't you think I know its a serious disorder? Talking about anorexia and unhealthy ideals must be done and I can't understand some of the comments like yours, cause in what way is it offensive to say that its not healthy to not eat, starve yourself, throw up and even have anorexia? If someone has this disease or bulimia they should get help now! Its strange that any post can be turned into something bad or negative, even when its totally normal things I talk about. To not be ill, to take care, to eat, to look normal. Where´s the offense in that? And if you have anorexia and are offended, I am sorry, but that was never the case here. I wrote this to take a stand and say that I do not approve to the weight hate against famous women and the pressure that comes with that. Take care!
Dear Anette,
DeleteI understand what you mean and I have to say that I don't understand either why people would get offended by what you wrote on the topic of eating disorders and weight hate against women.
There is just something totally wrong with a society that promotes unhealthy body images of women, causing thousands of girls and women to deliberately starve themselves or throw up, when there are millions of people living in countries where there is not enough food for them to eat, and children and people die there every day from starvation.
And we, living in countries where we are blessed with an oversupply of healthy, delicious food, create such problems for ourselves, and for what? Just to fit into some kind of norm or standard? Just because we let media and society brainwash us into believing that we are only worth something and can be happy and loved if we conform to these standards of a one-size, so-called "perfect" body? It's just ridiculous.
And I think it's great and very brave of you to stand up against this and say "No, I don't approve of that and no, I am not willing to go along with that and submit myself to that!"
So please continue speaking your mind openly about topics like this, it's so important!
Love, Sabine
Betty Blue; Dear Betty! Your words touched me and the reason is because I have been in the hell you are. And believe me, I am so happy I am out of it! I know its hard, I know its hell! I know it will take every ounce of you to beat this disorder, but please do everything you can! Life is so much more without it. Believe me, I am the proof of it;=)
ReplyDeleteThanks a lot!
DeleteYeah, I guess if there´s any proof that one can beat anorexia that it´s you. I am so glad that there are people like you; because otherwise, at who should I look? And believe me, I will do everything I can. I want to have children somewhen, so I have no other choice ;-)
So glad you are out there, healthy, lucky and beautiful!
Love, Betty
JRPhoto: Hi and thanks for your comment and you are right. I believe if we are happy and content with our lives, we don't care about how other look or live their lives. But if we are dissatisfied with ourselves we will start to find things to pick on, to hate, to dislike and be jealous of. And of course a famous person is an easy target since they are seen everywhere in nice photo shopped versions of themselves. Take care;=)
ReplyDeleteRose: Hi and thanks for your comment;=) And yes, media feeds us with this ideal and also if you go to the big clothing stores the sizes are getting smaller, the mannequins are so thin, the models on the runway are thinner and thinner. Its a shame and I am happy I don't have a daughter to try and teach good healthy ideals to, cause its so hard for girls to not "fall" into these ideals. I would like to see this documentary you talk about, sounds really interesting!
DarkQueen; Hi! I´m sorry to hear your friend has gotten anorexia. Its a really hard disease, not only for the person having it, but also for everyone around who tries to get the person well again. I don't know if your friend has gotten any help, but that is something she needs!
Ellinor: Hej! Och ja, du har helt rätt! Det är så det alltid varit, vi ska behaga och vara vackra. Våra kroppar är våra "vapen" och tjejers tävlan finns där alltid. Trist och det är svårt att få ändring på dessa skillnader mellan kvinnor och män, tyvärr. Men jag vägrar acceptera det så jag kommer fortsätta bli arg över hur vi kvinnor ska ha sådana krav på oss medan männen slipper. Om jag fick styra världen skulle världsordningen vara totalt upp och ner;=) ha det gott!
Good morning Anette!
DeleteYes, she got help. She's going to talk with a psychologist. Since she fell ill changed her character and I must say that now is very hard to be near her. In this moment I really don't know how to help her. She doesn't accept help by me. I hope she'll be better soon.
Thank you so much for your answer :)
Sofi: Hi! I guess we don't have the same male thing in the magazines here cause I haven't seen this here. But thats really bad too!
ReplyDeleteLogan; Hi! Well, I don't think she sells herself as a thin girl. Maybe she, as many else, feel she needs to look like that to be approved. And that is why its sad to see that now when she has gained more weight and look healthy, she gets beaten for it. Like Jessica Simpson, she also were really thin at one point, but then she gained and she has been so harassed by media that its just plain disgusting.
Sabine; hi! yeah, sushi is good;=) And you know 29 kilos is not healthy, so please don't ever try and weigh that again! And I love Jackass and was so thrilled when I met Bam Margera in USA the last tour;=) BIG moment for me, cause he is just a crazy and funny guy;=)
Andromeda: Hi and your right! But I guess if you, like Lady Gaga, have had a problem with her weight and maybe isn't totally free from that, she has a hard time to shake off the mean comments. I guess if she was totally fine with her appearance, she wouldn't bother and that was why she mentioned that Adele seem to be an "ideal" of hers for being bigger and not caring about what others think.
ReplyDeleteBeto: Hi and I like that you have this ideal;=)
Meghan; Hi and I agree with you;=)
The dead unicorn; Ha ha, I actually were called the "Feminist" on tour with the band so its nothing new;=) And I agree with you in everything you say;=) And believe me, as a woman who have worked with only men and where they also are famous, I know that there are NEVER any comments about if any of them have gotten a bigger belly, gained weight and so on. Instead, they are just sexy and cool and can't do anything wrong. So a man is only sexier but a woman is fat, ugly, gross, a whore and so on, if she doesn't fit into the "ideal" of stereotyping a celebrity need to have. Thin, sexy, throwing her hair around, having a sexy cleavage and so on and I have and will always be against this!
Saskia: Hi and thanks;=) Its so much better to be healthy and strong than thin and weak so you´re doing it right;=)
David: Hi and thanks,=) i agree with you and the thing we need to remember is that when the designer show their clothes in the catwalk they want a walking clothing hanger to wear them. So its not supposed that we, normal women, should walk around looking like clothing hangers;=) We are supposed to have curves and for me, I think the clothes designers need to think more about how REAL women look like when designing clothes for them. Some designer clothes I have tried are so small that only a boy age 10 can wear them. Scary!
Elize: Hi, it is but we need so stand up against these "ideals" to make a change and not accept it.
ReplyDeleteEva: Hi! yes, it is hard to stand up against the ones telling you you´re fat and so on. but one thing is to accept your body and also find other ideals. Like you say, girls who are healthy and eat and exercise in a health way. Not the ones that are totally fanatic about exercising either, cause they can also be ill. Dress in clothes that make you look good and that suits you. Don't try and use clothes that aren't made for your body type for instance. These things help me;=)
Halleigh; Hi! The best thing to do is to throw out those to small clothes and not look back. And after the body has been on starvation for a long time it will hold on to every weight you put on, its the bodies natural instinct and its not until after many years of eating normal the body might let go of this. Our bodies also have a weight where it wants us to be. So even if you want to loose some more kilos, your body won't let go, cause it strives to be at that specific weight. Take care;=)
ReplyDeleteKaoru: Hi and yes, you´re right.We can't say that someone is anorexic for sure, some are just thin by nature. But we also know that the demands from Hollywood for instance are to be thin and many actors in their 50s look like an 11 year old in the body. And that makes me quite sure that they are starving themselves. I also am tired of hearing women who are over 65 years old talking about loosing 2 kilos and so on. Come on! Will we never be free from this obsession? I get so tired and when I am 65 I won't ever care about these things. Scary!
Lorena:; Thats just crazy and the only thing to say is, yes it has to do with them wanting to be cool and feel power over others. But they were just immature little boys, not adults in their brains;=) Take care and Hello Stockholm!
ReplyDeleteFiona; Hi and thanks;=) I will always speak my mind;=)
Must say, it is great to see you're not shying away from the feminist label as many women seem to, I used to shy away from it due to this misinformation about supposedly all feminist being man-haters, and also the occasional crap that feminist women are lesbians, and all this total bullsh*t to misrepresent and discredit the validity of the feminist movement, as I did not want to be seen as such (for many years I was also in denial about my sexual orientation, which did not help).
ReplyDeleteI wish I knew about you when I was younger, you'd have been a great role model when I was in my mid-teens, not to say you haven't been inspiring, because you have been so, and quite profoundly too, but, I did not have any role models growing up who took on social issues so much. Within the last month you have posted about particular social issues that I feel very strongly about, and for that I just have so much respect for you, particularly when you posted in support of the LGBT community, as someone who is part of the LGBT community who was has been struggling with depression and even has had suicidal thoughts, it meant so much.
Thank you.
and Take care!
xo
Hi Anette
ReplyDeleteI know a girl who is falling in anorexia and I can tell you that it hurts me to see her like that because she was so pretty but I think it came out, she feels better now :-)
love
isa
Hello Anette,
ReplyDeleteIn a television report about anorexia were also reported on the trend of skinny models. Basically, the clothes look better on skinny models almost as in models that are built normally.:/
Ok I´ve some pounds to much, but i Lost over 30 kilos with my own way.
I had never a Model as my idol. So i don´t understand, why young Girl want to be a Model?:(? That is not a great Life and with 30 Years you are out!
The Sexy Idol Marilyn Monroe was not a skinny Woman;)
All the best Nalon
I think it all depends on *why* you are the shape and size you are, not that you are. If you want to be super skinny because YOU want to be, that is fine by me. It's the people who starve themselves because they think it's the only way others will accept them.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with you. This is really sad that women think they have to starve themselves to look "skinny"
ReplyDeleteI hate how the media makes it like everyone has to be skinny to be perfect. I also notice that they use a lot of photoshop to make this happen as well. They make a person look "perfect". As a graphic design student, I believe that is giving the view (mostly women) the wrong idea. I think the media is hurting women more than helping them.
Your post reminds me of a doccumentary on the French model/actress Isabelle Caro, who died of anorexia. She did doccumentaries speaking against it.
Oh, nice. You comment back :) Didn't know that before, because just started reading your blog again :) But I love that, 'cause in my blog I just wrote about artists, who really don't care about their fans and don't even bother to answrer even if they had time. Of course, some are so busy or decide that they won't answer anyone, and of course its not that simple, but I prefer artists who do. You're a great example, and thanks :) / greets from the finnish girl ;)
ReplyDeleteAs a man, I have to say that the most attractive thing to me is a woman who is comfortable in her skin no matter the size, as long as it is healthy. Unhealthy large or skinny are both unattractive.
ReplyDeleteI really do blame the media for the obsession with weight for women, as my daughter had self esteem problems through puberty in spite of her mother and I both trying to talk sense to her. How are kids supposed to believe mom and dad when they are getting this message that the only acceptable size is rail thin thrown at them from all forms of media their whole lives?
Dear Anette,
ReplyDeleteI'm loving you and your blog more and more with every single inspirational post you make! Totally agree with you (as usual) just wanted to say one thing.
Anorexia (and other eating disorders, like bulimia, ednos and binge eating!!!) are in 9 out of 10 cases not about the media/pressure to be thin/looking like a skeleton. restricting/binging/purging are for the eating disordered what alcohol is for an alcoholic. I have ednos, I don't look like a skeleton, and it wasn't caused by media pressure (now that I already have one, the media can sometimes be a trigger, but it's not enough to cause an illness like this). Not everyone who is very skinny (be it natural or not) is anorexic, because an eating disorder is not a diet. Just felt the need to say that, because these issues are incredibly misunderstood :(
It really does make me sad that clothing size seems to be more important than being a good person in the heart and I'm so glad that you speak out against this! Many musicians seem to be appreciated for their body rather than their talents. Also for example someone like Adele, gets so much hate because she's not the slimmest woman out there. Why?! She has a phenomenal voice and a great talent at writing songs. She's also beautiful. It's so frustrating :(
Love
Hi, Anette!
ReplyDeleteHaven't been here for a while, so couldn't write earlier. I agree with you, this is a very big problem with this "common" opinion about women that "the thinner - the better". And with celebrities it's even worse, cause so many people are trying to imitate them, be like them.
And I think something similar happened to my friend couple of years ago. We had our graduation from school and she wanted to lose her weight a bit to look "better" in her dress and so on. She started to try different diets, eat almost nothing, and begin to lose her weight. And somehow it happened that she couldn't stop it, and I think, she even was a bit scared herself, she was so skinny compared with what she used to be. Fortunately, she didn't loose so much weight, and was not anorexic cause she managed to stop in time and she looks good and healthy now.
And the reason why she started it I guess was, at some point, that she likes Victoria Beckham. I don't have anything against her, I just think that she is too skinny, and I've been always saying it to my friend. But she cannot see it and sure that it's all OK with her.. I don't know, maybe it's not my problem or I am wrong but I just think that it's not normal to be like Viktoria Beckham.
So now, when I hear anything like "I guess I need to lose my weiht a bit" from my friend, I try to stop her and to convince her that she looks good as she is, cause she is really NOT fat:)
Take care,
Julia.
just wrote about that in my blogg aswell. during some websurfing i found this from nike http://www.nikeblog.com/2010/07/26/new-nike-women-ad-my-butt-is-big/
ReplyDeletejust perfect :-)