LizLunatic:
I am sorry I didnt reply earlier to the horrible abuse you had to get through. I am so so sorry for what happened to you and I do hope your physical pain soon will go away. For the mental part it may take a little longer.
I know how it is to be mocked and harassed for the clothes you wear. When I went to school my mum made my clothes so of course I stood out in the crowd. As you do too.
But never change! You have the right to look as you want and wear what you want. Noone should ever make you change.
What is important is to really get the school to take big steps against these people. Discipline them and you should make a file at the police too. Its usually so hard to get help from the school leaders but they are obliged to fix these things and do things to prevent them. Mocking and harassing in school or at a working place are a big problem and needs to be dealed with immediately. In many cases the bully needs to be transfered to another school or working place. Hard, but the only way for the mocked one to be able to be free from the horassment.
I dont know if this was the first time this happened to you but no matter, you need to get people to act against it and help you. For me, the principal at my school didnt do anything and that is really not ok. He said: let the kids work it out themselves. But that is wrong, a thing like this needs adult help to make it right. Being beaten that bad as you were, is never ever ok and the pupil should be expelled.
I do hope you soon feel better and let me know how things work out for you. Dont let one bad person take your courage down. Show him that you are stronger than him and hold your head high when you meet him. The thing a bully want is for you to be weak and him to be stronger, so never ever let him feel that feeling. YOU are the strong and beautiful person;=)
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Thanks Anette for these beautiful words. You are good and beautiful person.
ReplyDeleteHii dear Anette =)
ReplyDeletethank you so much for your sweet reply, it is really a help for me.
Well, with my face it is not going so good, my jaw is broken and because of the blood in the cavities they cannot tell me yet if it needs to get surgery.
It is very very swollen and bruised, and I can't really speak, am not allowed to chew or sniff.
Luckily this time, my school did go after it immediately.
Some girls from that certain guy's class went up to administration with me to give them his name and tell what happened.
The guy is expelled now and his parents have been contacted for a talk at the school.
I am surprised things all went so well because we share our building with another school, and he was from that one.
This was not the first time something like this happened, when I was in middle school i was herassed as well and often hit too, but never like this and it really shocked me.
Luckily my friends have been really sweet for me and my classmates also.
I am currently at home because I feel very embarassed about my face and it hurts alot, but this afternoon I have 2 exams which i am going to do.
This Friday my mum made an appointment at the police to make a file.
And Monday I have to go to the jaw surgeon when the swelling is down a little.
But you know, the worst thing is the reason why I was beaten.
Because I'm different, and I know that is never a good reason.
My mother always taught me to be proud of who I am, and accept myself.
But people like this make that harder and harder.
People like you however, give me strength and I am so gratefull for your message, it helps me alot to know I'm not alone in this.
Thank you so much Anette, you're an angel.
Lots of love, Lisa <3
I agree with you anette! Bullies are always overlooked. Schools always take this type of situation so lightly. Plain and simple schools should never allow it. Bullies are the reason there are kids out there with low self esteem. I know we can't live in a world where everything is perfect but at least we should try to make a world where everyone is at least ok with eachother. Some people bully and arn't even aware there doing it just because they were never told what they were doing was wrong. We need people to stand up to bullies i know its hard to do alone but when people group together to fight this kind of stuff we might have a chance at making things better.
ReplyDeleteLizLunatic,
I am very sorry to read about what happend. That is really messed up. I wish you to get well as soon. I am a girl who dresses goth and i mean people stare and sometimes make comments but for someone to hit you that is crossing the line. Im really sorry this happend to you. My little sister was bit by a dog and her face is pretty scared up right now. when i take her to the park to play other kids make fun of her which is understandable they are young and don't know any better. My sister is 4 and even adults have made rude comments about her scars. luckly she is too young to understand what they mean but it makes me scared for her future. I don't want her to grow up bullied. She has turner syndrome as well so she will only be 4 foot 6 inches tall when she is full grown and she will always look like a child. Im scared that something like this could happen to her. people these days encouraged to be individuals but it seems like when ever someone stands out too much they are punished by rude people.
Keep getting better. I hope you go back to school and the person who did this is punished. Different or not no one should be aloud to hit someone.
Good morning Anette (and LizLunatic),
ReplyDeleteI really feel for Liz. Being hit is the worst thing that ever could happen with a girl. It has happend to me too and I cannot forget that moment, that day has changed my life. I've become a bit more shy but much more careful with people around me. I swore that this ever will happen again I will hit back and won't let them hurt me.
It is so disgusting what people can do with others. You should report it to the police and the principal as well. Or at least let the principal know. Don't let them ruin your life, ignore those nasty people. I know it is easy to say and to give advice but I know time will heal your wounds in your soul, it happend to me so trust me ;)
Show them that you are stronger than ever. If you have good friends ask them to stay with you when you're going home. In the school, just smile and show them that you don't care about their nasty behaviour. You are such a strong girl so don't give up! I'm sending you healing hugs through this site.
Hope Anette doesn't mind that I talk to you through her blog!
Thanks Anette! XXX
BIG Hugs,
Viktoria
XoXoXo
Great advice, Anette. I was bullied too when I was at school, and I believe it's because I was different and so I stood out. I was the quiet one and the thinker and didn't really fit in with all the shallowness that goes on in schools. I've never followed the herd either, and always stood by my beliefs, which is as it should be. No one has the right to tell you how to live your life.
ReplyDeleteI did report the bullies, but the teachers and headmaster didn't really do that much. But that was a very long time ago and I'm sure things have changed now. In the end I had to leave school because I couldn't cope anymore.
I do hope things work out for LizLunatic.
That was so cute from you Anette
ReplyDeleteand LizLunatic I'm so sorry what happened =[
Hi Anette and Lisa
ReplyDeleteI feel totally sorry for you both, it must be so hard to be mocked on! I never had that problem, only a few times that people laught with me, but that wasn't totally that bad. And I felt already broken down those times, so I can't imagine how you must feel/have felt...
I hope you will be oké Lisa..
And Anette, I hope you don't have to carry around those wounds anymore or and least not that much, because you probably are infected for live for a piece..
Take care!
Daphne
hello Anette,
ReplyDeletecruelty and stupidity of people is really limitless!
Unfortunately, it's always people who have heart that these idiots attack!
Unintelligent, they pass through the wickedness!
LizLunatic, you have the intelligence, the love in your heart and you're so much stronger than these idiots!
Anette, LizLunatic,
I send you a biiiiig hug!
Hi Liz, I really hope you are feeling better now. I am sure you will feel stronger for writing your thoughts down and 'Exorcising' the awful experience. You have had some lovely words from Anette which make you feel so good!
ReplyDeleteI had problems with agang from another school and would always try to avoid them at all costs . This only encouraged them. My dad gave me some advice which has been with me ever since. 'Never run away- face things head on- keep your head up and remember you have a right to be there as much as anyone else'.
Since adopting that approach I have become a much stronger person.
Take care and Warm Regards from England- Peter x
Great post Anette! I said so many things about bullies here and they just simply deserve no attention whatsoever! I can't express how much I'm disgusted and saddened by what those idiots did to You, Liz. I was about to say that You should file a police report and I'm glad You're doing it! Please don't let this jerk get away with it!
ReplyDeleteI hope You're going to feel much better soon and please remember what Anette and other folks here said: It doesn't matter who you are and how you look like, people have NO right to treat You that way and just be Yourself. Don't ever let anyone bring you down!
Stay strong! *hugs*
Love,
Karo E.
LizLunatic: I am so sorry that that happened to you. Bullying is so senseless and cruel and yet very few people seem to treat it seriously. I hope your face heals and that you don't let this guy ruin who you are.
ReplyDeleteHi Anette and thank you for your beautiful words.
ReplyDeleteI've suffered with the same problem 3 years ago I think and the worst part was that it came from girls who I thought were my friends, and it hurted me a lot.
I felt so weak, so sad and I had the will to die so much times, and worst than this was that I suffered alone! I didn't have any true friend close to me and when I tried to talk with my mother about, she said that this is normal and my heart fell into pieces one more time!
When the storm gone and the calm came to my life again, I looked to everyday I've suffered and realized that I am more important than them all and I CAN carry on even though I'm alone because I am strong and all the people who suffer with this problem is more stronger that they think. So LizLunatic, DON'T GIVE UP. I know what is feel as the worst person in this world but I also know that the worst person in the world can carry on and show to the rest of the school, work or whatever that we are able to turn our heads up and be happy one day.
I hope you really feel better in the near future, and never forget that there's so many people who care about and love you because you are a good person with a great heart and NOTHING in this world can slay this!!
Find your courage, darling!!!
Love,
Carol
Really sweet and encouraging words, I couldn't have said it better! Great job Anette
ReplyDeleteFor Liz: Do not let yourself being driven into the role of the victim. I had to face similar problems when I was at school, since I was the first and only metalhead there. The boys tried to beat me up (Epic fail, I did judo since I was three) and when that didn't work, they started calling me names. I ignored it or simply laughed at those blokes, it ended up that I was not very popular at school but I had my friends and I didn't bother unless I saw others bullying younger kids. We put up a group of elder pupils to prevent such madness and it worked out quite well.
I feel really sorry for you and I deeply hope that you will recover physicaly as well as mentaly! Remember, what does not kill you, makes you stronger!!! And with all the help I am quite sure that you will overcome this horror!
Regards,
Loki
It is so wonderful of you to write these words Anette
ReplyDeletevery strong words, and i think they help a lot.
To LizLunatic:
Im very sorry to read about such horrible things :(
I also hope Anette´s words are helping you.
i just can say: try to be strong, for yourself. never forget you are a important person. dont put yourself down,
look into the future, wich will be bright for you :)
Remember the sun i shining not only for the others...it shines also FOR YOU
look into the sky, feel the wind, the sun and the spirit that is carried within.
You are strong, incredibly strong, even if everything is dark there is always a light up ahead.
Im sending you all the best in the world deeply from my heart, and power and strenght right from my heart too :)
You will overcome this terrible time
and when this time is overcome
there is a bright future waiting for you :)
YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
Kindest Regards
and all my heart to you
Chris :)
Oh my God! I hope that you are ok now LizLunatic. Get well soon.
ReplyDeleteAnette , you always give good advices.
I was teased too. Some kids were complaining my style , but I just ignored them.
It's really sad...these bad things are happening =(.
Hugs
Ena
Well said, Anette. Sweet and wise words.
ReplyDeleteTo LizLunatic:
I´m very sorry to hear what happened to you. There´s never a good enough reason to do a thing like that to someone, but to do it just because someone is different...it´s wrong in every possible way.
I´ve gotten my share of mocking at school, mainly because of the same reason as you: I was different. But I was lucky because nobody hit me, they only said nasty things and spread false rumours around school. It lead to the situation where most of the students of my age either ignored me almost completely or then treated me like filth. But I had a few good friends, so I was able to ignore the bullies and laugh at them. And that irritated them soo much, they probably would have loved to see me being sad and upset because of them. Well, that´s the joy they never got.
Just stay strong and be yourself, no matter what. Hopefully you will be able to get over this thing and feel better as soon as possible. :)
Dear Anette,
ReplyDeleteI agree with everything you said!
It is so sad that things like these happen!
Those people are completly barking mad!
Unfortunately at every school there are people who enjoy mocking and hurting others they feel being weak or different. This can be solved only if the principals and the parents take action, because otherwise this problems will never be solved by itself!
LizLunatic: I feel really sorry for the terrible thing that happened to you!!!
Hopefully Anette's words will help you feel better and forget this event as soon as possible!
It's good to hear that the person that has done this to you has been expelled from your school!
Be strong and don't let this get you down!
I wish you to get well very soon!
Love,
Herta
To Everyone including Anette:
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for all your kind words of love and support, it really brings tears to my eyes when I read all of your messages.
It feels good to know that, even if people don't know me personally, they have such good and warm hearts for me.
Bless you all!
I just came back from school where I had an exam, and everyone was so sweet and kind to me there too.
That, and all your sweet words will definately help me to recover from this mentally =)
As for my face, I just hope I don't end up looking like a baboon (which I do now).
I will let you know monday if it is going to need surgery or not.
You guys are all a bunch of darling angels =)
Many many thanks again for all the support of both you guys and Anette *hugemegaHUG*
All my love, kisses and hugs,
Lisa van Outvorst <3
LizLunatic:
ReplyDeleteI almost cried when I read what happened to you. I can't say in any way I know how you feel, the only thing that's happened to me is just words.
People like that shouldn't be allowed in public. A person who hurts another person, physically or mentally, cannot be able to think clearly. I can't understand why people do this. To show they have some kind of power over people? That's idiotic.
For two years I hated school more than ever. I hadn't liked it before THAT much, but now I loathed going to school, to have classes with a boy, who made me hate him for what he did. It wasn't much at first, but in the end he actually said to me:
"Go kill yourself! Go jump of a roof or shoot yourself."
Yes, he actually said this. And I thank every God or something that I'm freed from him now.
I'm really sorry for what happened, and I hope you will never have to endure anything like that again.
Hugs!
bullying and mocking is never dealt with well in school. I've had some bad experiences with it, making me decide to leave my first public school... it's very sad that more isn't done to help.
ReplyDeleteYou're such a sweet person Anette.
xoxoxo- Alena
I am really sorry for Liz!!!
ReplyDeleteWhat a coward and racist guy!!
Why the people have to think this way???
Why they can't see that no matter the way we dress is all inside??
We have the right to wear the way we like
I suffer something like these went I was in the highschool my "best friends" start to scream my personal charts with them in the middle of the lunch all because I wasn't want to go to a party, what a mean girls!!. That really made me think that my family is the only one I can trust.
I hope you, Liz, get better soon!!
You are a strong person thats for sure, what can not kill you makes you stronger!!
hugs and love
Clau♥
Good god, Lisa, that's a nightmare what happened to you! I'm shocked -- that was not just bullying but brutal violence and I'm happy you and your family took it all the way up to police! Not just the school's business anymore but a serious criminal act that calls for serious legal punishment. You should also get proper compensations and that guy should pay all your hospital costs!
ReplyDeleteThis is so sick, to hear these kind of news more and more often -- of course, there was bullying when I was in school too (I'm already 35 so it was _some_ years back...) but it seldom got this serious, at least in our school (though I have a friend, my age, who still carries scars on her arm, thanks to her classmates who pushed her down on the ground and carved her up with scissors... so it happened, already "back then"...). I got my fair share too, I was just the typical target: from a poor family, walking around in home-made or supermarket clothes instead of designer stuff and diamond jewellery (it was the worst in the late '80's yuppie era when your value as a person in our class was directly related to how much your parents earned... O__O), best of my class, this silent, shy, lonely thinker who loved to read books, write stories, paint pictures, wander in the nature -- "abnormal", "different", "nerd" in other words... Thank gods I managed to gather some courage on the 9th grade and defend myself for the first time so that last year was a bit more tolerable but still, I didn't get back my self-esteem until getting into an art high school where everybody was "different", where being "abnormal" was just positive :)
School bullying can leave life-long scars -- I'm not shy anymore, I have strong self-esteem and don't give a f**k what people think of me but I still realize that I have sometimes hard time to trust people or believe people's friendliness or interest towards me is really genuine... Could be that that 8 years of bullying made me somewhat cynical towards other people, who knows?
I'm glad, Lisa, that you have friends and that your school and family took that horrible incident seriously -- not all schools do and in some cases (like in our school back then), telling about bullying to teachers would've only made it worse (I saw this so I kept it all inside, just learned to grow a thick skin and retreat into my own "worlds", into my own imagination, books and so...). Of course, I never witnessed anything as serious as your case, but still... even "just" name-calling, pushing, derogatory comments about your looks and persona, stealing and destroying your property etc etc can destroy someone's life and self-esteem for years :/
Anette, you're really an angel of compassion, giving this much time and devotion to your fans. I can only imagine how much it means in cases like this! :) So terrible to hear you're a former victim of school bullying too -- I sometimes wonder has _anyone_ had a chance to go to school in peace, to _enjoy_ that time instead of spending years in anxiety and fear! :(
Stay strong, Lisa, you're a brave young woman with all rights to be proudly yourself and we all care of and support you!
*hugs*, Minna
Hi LizLunatic!
ReplyDeleteI feel so sorry about what had happened to you, and I really wish you a fast recovery both physically and mentally, which is more important. :) You must know, that you are not alone with this situation, and I hope it will make you much more stronger. :) You have to believe in that and it will help you with your recovery. ;) I wish you luck and all the best!
And Anette, you are the sweetest person alive, just to know that. :) ;)
Thank you, Anette for answering LizLunatic and saying such words to encourage her. I really wanted to comment on her situation but really felt she needed to hear inspiration from you personally.
ReplyDeleteFor LizLunatic, hold you head high and be proud of who you are. My biggest heros in life are those who suffered becasue they are the strongest of all humanity. Especially when they pick themselves up from adversity and pain.
I've never been bullied for my dress or belief but lots of times had my butt kicked and punched, made fun off because I had black friends and being white in a country where racism is a fact of life, I took my beatings with dignity because NOBODY was EVER going to tell me who my friends were going to be and who to love. My closest and best friend, Mati shared many fat lips and swollen eyes together and laugh about it today after all these years. It hurts so much inside in so many ways, I know but when all settles down, you will be brave again... never stop being who you are!
The guy who hit you is a horrible person and just know that all his hate and actions will come to hurt him too.
Stay strong
Love, Mia
LizLunatic,
ReplyDeleteI'm not sure what actually happened to you, because I couldnt find where you posted this message orginally, but it sounds so similar to what happened to my friend a few years back.
She didn't go to my school when this happened, but she was picked on and tormented for so long in High School. She was beaten severely, always by the same two people, and it even went as far as having her face stamped on by one of them. Unfortunatly, one day when they attacked, she fell, and she scratched one of her attackers face. Because of that, there was no way to tell who started the fight, so the headteacher couldnt do anything.
As weird as this is going to sound, she and her family were run out of their home by the attacks that were moved to their area. Im saying this is weird because it was actually the best thing that could have happened to them. She is a very sweet, misunderstood girl, and her family are lovely. She retook her GCSE's and is now doing really well at a college for training the police. Her attackers, I hear, one of them is serving an 8 year prison sentence, and the other one is single and pregnant (for the second time)
What im trying to say is, its always darkest before the dawn. When things look their worst, it can only ever get better =]You will be the one who comes out on Top.
So hoping you are feeling well soon.
Dan xxx
Great post Anette.
ReplyDeleteAnd I agree with that what you say. Bullying is always bad. At my old school bullying was quite a big problem (the teacher tried to help pupils who were bullied but the bullies often continued).
Unfortunately I was one of the pupils who were bullied because I was not like the others (only female into metal music). They called me names (something like Nightwish Gothic Girl).
To LizLunatic: I feel very sorry for you. :( And I really hope you will feel better soon.
LizLunatic:
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry for what happened to you. People like the one who beated you are just sick, I can't possibly think of another reason for them to hate people who are, by their standards, "different". I really hope everything will be better now.
And, like someone already said before me: You are not alone! There will always be people who stand by you.
My very best wishes to you! Get well!
Frida,
Helsinki, Finland
I am sorry to hear something like this which is really hard to Lisa deal with.
ReplyDelete@Lisa
I already faced difficult situations too, but I never was beaten. My friends (in fact I can't call them friends) mocked me almost everyday for about two years just because I was shy and alone. I was that because of THEM! Now I can say that nobody mocks me anymore. I made them stop. That was three years ago, when I was 14 years old, now I am 17. But I am still shy and alone sometimes.
But hell, a guy beat a girl? That is not acceptable.
Stay strong, that guy is just a loser trying to show that he is strong and "normal", things that he is not.
I know it is difficult to deal with this kind of people and with situations like this. But you will overcome it.
People don't have the right to say bad things to you or about you, they don't have the right to treat you any differently.
I really feel sorry, I hope it won't happen again. And I hope all these problems don't change the way you are and don't harm you mentally, emotionally and physcially.
You seem to be such a great person, life still has lot of good surprises for you.
Best regards from Brazil,
Fábio
Liz: I'm really sorry for what's happened to you! It's stupid that people would hurt others just because they're different. Like Martin Luther King said, people should be judged not by the colour of their skin but the content of their character. It's not a dissimilar principle. Whatever happens, keep your head high and try to be strong :) Best wishes from here in England xx
ReplyDeleteAnette: It's so sweet of you to reply to Liz like that, and if it were me it would make me feel a lot better, and I hope she does too. You have a truly kind heart :) Best wishes for you too xx
Hello Anette, and guys ;)
ReplyDeleteAfter reading about this terrible and horror thing i feel like the world is so unfair...For many people that are "different"...I'm sending my best regards to you LizLunatic, wish you to feel better and to enjoy the life!!!You must remember one thing: nothing goes unpunished. One day the pain that guy gave you will turn back to him. This is a eternal law. Everything bad comes bad,so...i can only say I'm sorry about him,hihi..))He will learn it,later...
To Anette:
I was touched of your post since you get worried of this accident. You got really into it....you're really a good person and i'm sure a good friend ever =) You always teach us to do things right and fair by your life expirience and all other things...Thank you for that!!!!We love you ;=)
Hej Anette!
ReplyDeleteI want to thank you for your beautiful post, the things you say are so very true! Thanks for supporting Liz and anyone who is brave enough to express their own personality like she does. I would also like to join everyone here saying to Liz that she must be proud of herself and never give up! Like you said, she's the strong one and she has the power to overcome the difficulties and let her beauty shine :-)
Hugs and love,
Elisa
Hejj...
ReplyDeleteSomething like this is very very horrible !! I don´t understand the people who hurt you. And I don´t understand the people who hurt me and others!! I don´t know why they hurt people just because they look different !
I feel sooooooo sorry for you !
Thanks Anette that you wrote this for her! You are the best !!!
Big hugs and many kisses from Austria,
Laura
To LizLunatic:
ReplyDeleteI'm so sorry about what happened to you... And Anette is completely right!!
I know you must be going through some hard time right now, but don't eever change who you are. You have to show these people that you are who you are and you're not going to change. These kids probably envy you for being brave enough and not feel ashamed of showing yourself of to the world!
Your physical wounds will heal soon, but you have to work your mind. Try not to get depressed or to afraid of going out because of this. Go get a terapist help if you feel you need, because I think what happened to you will leave a mark in your heart.
But don't let that turn you. you have to find strength inside your soul and just keep on being this beautiful person!!
I went to some hard time when I was in school too.. Luckily, nobody ever physically hurted me, but I used to be mocked a lot because I used to hang out with gay people... So.. you can imagine that too..
We are all hoping you get well soon and are here for you too!!
Big hug to you!!! take care, sweetie!
I wonder what you think about eating disorders? I'm 15 and I've been anorexic since 2001. I also have deep depression and i have only five friend. Music (->Nightwish) is a big part of my life and really you guys make my days better. Thank you so much Nettan <3
ReplyDelete@Liz: I really hope you're getting better and you'll be well in no time. I haven't really gotten the chance to read exactly what happened, I don't usually read all comments and I don't know if you only told your experience to Anette, in a private comment, but I saw the big picture and what happened to you was just low, in every possible meaning. The only advice I can give you is to always stand tall and proud, never feel ashamed for who and how you are and don't let those bullies feel like they have won something over you. I want to think they will realize how despicable their actions were. If not now, maybe later, but I'm sure your behavior and the reactions and attitude of the ones around you, your friends and the ones who support you, will show them how wrong they were.
ReplyDeleteThe saddest thing in this kind of situations is the fact you get to realize how insecure the society of our days has become. It's incredible that people are being taken away their identities and personality by some brats who think they're the best people in the world, who know it all and do it all better. Anyone who has the physical strength (and, may I say, an absolutely complete lack of brains) is allowed to do anything they like to anyone they want to, because of any possible reason. Be it tastes and preferences or behavior, or looks, practically everything. And people around us pretend they don't see it and don't do anything about it. What I actually don't get is how everyone out there fails to understand the world is not theirs. Force doesn't beat out the number and the intensity of belief, to put it so. If everyone would communicate and help each other and manage to stay lucid, careful and willing to protect the ones around, I think we would manage to do it. But apparently ignoring things is easier. I think even I would do so, if I saw someone in danger, I don't think I'd be able to go to help him personally. I might try to get information about the bully, memorize his face and traits in order to do something later, but I think we never get the amount of courage needed in order to stop the evil from the very start.
Anyhow, again, Liz, good for you for going to the police and telling people what happened. I doubt those bullies will ever get any other friends except their little filthy circle of punks. Or any respect and honesty. On the other hand, you can be completely frank about what you lived and, even though it hurts, show yourself as an example of what might happen to anyone of us if things go on like that.
Anette, thank you for making this special post for Liz. Like I said, I don't usually read all the comments, therefore might often skip very important things, be they happy or sad, like this one. Thank you for pointing it out, thank you for supporting her and giving her strength and also for making us get together in order to spread positive energy and vibes and think about the darker things around us. I hope things like that never happen to anyone else around here or anyone else at all.
Dear Lisa,
ReplyDeleteI am not sure what to say here that has not already been said so many times. Please stay strong, and never be ashamed to be who you truly are. I also went through so many similar things, teasing, and a few beatings. (not to this extent)
I am long since grown and am now mother to a daughter about your age, who now suffers from similar problems. Bullying is an unfortunate fact of life it seems, one I wish didn't have to be.
None of us may ever know why we had to suffer these things, but I believe there is a reason for everything. Someday we will be stronger, and hopefully able to help others because we understand what they are going through.
Many blessings and much love to you,
Aurora
Well...Anette, you're great!
ReplyDeleteI'm SO sorry about what happened to LuzLunatic
it shocked me, really.
And now I'm sad 'cause I cant believe there's a lot of people like this :(
LuzLunatic: Just be strong! I dont know you but i'm sure your a good person and you have good feelings. When I was 10 (I think.. not sure) my classmates were so cruel with me just because I have ever been always a great student, so they told me bad things and leave me alone everyday.
But that's past for me, now I have really good friends, my new classmates are kind.
Sometimes we can feel really bad and say: "I'm alone in this damn world" but that's not true.
Just find help and love from your beloved ones, hug them and keep on with your life.
Of course, dont change.
I send you all my strength and support...
Anette! You're the best human around the world.
Thank you for these beautiful words.
We love you <3
Take care :)
That's really sweet of you Anette and
ReplyDeleteI agree with what you said.
Which as a side note- do adults not
think that kids try to solve problems before
reporting them? Because most people try
to work it out, if you're reporting it then
it's clearly still a problem!
Liz- I'm sorry about what happened to you
and I personally wish there was
more than words I could give you, but
remember to keep your head up.
I'm in high school and I know how immature
most people are and this is hitting a
little beyond that. I know, I get picked
on because I'm not "normal".
Well to hell with that because who wants
to be normal?!? One of my favorite
quotes is- "You laugh because I'm different.
I laugh because you're all the same."
and I try and remember that every day.
That I'm different and I love to be,
that it doesn't matter what everyone else
thinks. I would hope you report it no
matter how much you want to tell yourself not
to, you need to do something
and I don't want anything worse to happen
to you. Like I said, I can't do much from
here, but know that I'm sure every
person on this blog supports you and
would only want the best.
Hugs and love, Katie T.
Liz:
ReplyDeleteYou don't need to change, people MUST accept you as the way you are, don't pay attention to anyone who discriminates you....people who does this is because they have a peanut as brain...and they don't know what is love or respect....
also...Don't be afraid!!! you are not alone!!!
and I've being hurted too by other people just because i'm "different" but you are not different, they are the ones who are different, you are special... dont feel bad girl! this experience will make you stronger!
you are not doing anything bad =)
and
STAY AS YOU ARE...DON'T CHANGE!
with love Andrea Carvajal =) Venezuela
Hi Liz! What happened to you was absolutely horrible, I really hope that guy gets punished and is forced to think about his actions! I can't even believe something like this to happen! Stay strong and remember what Anette and the others said!
ReplyDeleteI was bullied too when I was younger. I wasn't very social as a child, I liked to stay home and read books, when I couldn't read yet I watched photos of birds and other animals from books with my grandmother, who passed away few weeks ago..
So I didn't make many friends at schools, some girls were my buddies but on the next week they bullied me. Called me names and left me standing alone, made clear that I don't belong with them. One girl even poked me and laughed. Of course the teachers saw that, but nobody did anything for it.
Later, when I went from middle school to junior high I made some friends with people coming further away and my bullies weren't on the same grade with me anymore, so the situation calmed down.
I moved to a different city for high school and got a fresh start there, and there I made some real friends with whom I chit-chat even now, over three years after graduation. I have also made lots of friends on internet, we chat very often and meet pretty often too. :)
I'm at work now and people here think I'm kinda weird, but they don't mind. Some people sometimes laught at me, but in a good way, they mean no harm. We are all adults there.
Last spring I went for a photoshoot by an amateur photographer, who wants to photograph gothic people. We had a good time, he praised me and made me feel pretty (I'm a bit overweighted). But when I saw the photos I was shocked. He had photoshopped me to look like I was almost anorectic! I felt so dissaponted, ashamed and betryed, once again. I wasn't good enough even for an amateur! Now I'm just mad at him, who does he think he is!? Why did he pic me, if he wanted a skinny model, he hed seen photos of me before.. It was so offending, I felt really bad. Luckily I have a professional photographer as a friend and she really thinks I'm beautiful just the way I am. She publishes a gothic magazine and she wants me to make an article about my style. And the only thing she fixes on my photos is some random pimples on my face. :) She also said to me, that I'm one of her best models. :)
I also have a loving fiancé who thinks I'm the most devine creature on the planet. He loves me very much and I'm so happy with him. :)
So don't you ever give up, show the world what you're made of. There's always people who love you just the way you are, you just need to find those guys. :) And don't let those bullies bring you down, eventually they'll get what they deserve with their hollow lives. Just remember who you are and be proud of it, even if it's hard sometimes!
I wish you and Anette & all the other all the best. :)
-Tiina-
Hi Anette and LizLunatic.
ReplyDeleteWell I've read it all, and I've already contacted Liz through email. Anyway I repeat some things here: Liz, I'm so sorry for what happened, I and all the readers are with you, you're NOT alone, and (like you said) even if we don't know you at all, we support you and you have our love. I think there mustn't be a reason for loving someone who you just met. So, we're here with you, ok? Don't forget it :)
Anette's sweet words must have helped you very very much. This whole thing almost made me cry, I felt very sad... A big hug from me and everyone :)