... I got from BigD and I need to share it with you all:
Five finger death punch - Coming down:
It really is a song and a video that hit me straight into my heart and soul. What these two feel and what they want to do is something I and maybe more of you, who have suffered bullying and harassment, have felt sometime. But luckily, as the video shows, the message here is that there is ALWAYS someone who love you for WHO YOU ARE!! And the ones who doesn't, will try and change you just to make themselves feel better and they shouldn't be given any of your time!
And like the video says in the ending, and which is what is so important: ONE FRIEND CAN SAVE A LIFE!
So, as I have talked about before, if someone you know are bullied or harassed and totally lonely - be there for him/her! Stand up against the bullies and support the one bullied! Courage is the most important thing and if you do not help, you are the same as the bullies!
I truly love the lyrics in the chorus:
I could never be what you want me to - you pull me under to SAVE YOURSELF
You will never see what´s inside of me - I pull you under just to SAVE MYSELF
Thanks Big D for this, it really is an important message and a great song and video!
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Really nice song, and really really good lyrics! As I told you, I was all night with my friends. With my only truly friends. Aaaand we talk so much, that I just woke up and im soooo tired. Haha, i better sleep in the car while going Helsinki. But i think i cant sleep anymore... Have a GREAT day Anette! <3
ReplyDeleteHi Anette,
ReplyDeleteSometimes people can be so cruel, but I am a great believer in Karma, and what you give is what you get back in return. So the people who do the bullying will one day become the bullied and so the cycle will go on. Why do people feel the need to bully others? It's the thought of being powerful and popular, but truth be told, they are weak. Stand up against the bullies, but never fight back. Fighting back only brings more situations to fight. What goes around comes back around.
Have a wonderful day and God bless.
Quite impressive!!
ReplyDeleteI wish GEMA would let me see this video -.-
ReplyDeleteBut luckily enough, amongst my friends no-one is bullied. We all have our problems - depression, anorexia, drugs, bulimia, some of us have been raped, some have experienced domestical violence, and so on - but no-one is bullied. Some have been, though. But we somehow managed to find us and we supported the bullied and now the others respect us or at least leave us alone. I´m so very glad that it is like this now!
By the way, would you mind if I did some advertising for your blog on German websites? Because I think the topics you talk about are so very important, and they should be seen by even more people.
Love, Betty
Betty; Feel free to share it;=)
ReplyDeleteI agree with all your words...
ReplyDeletegreat video and song... Thanks!
Do you know the writer Stefan Zweig? When i read your post, i remembered him at once. He and his wife finished living by suicide and left the note, where they wrote "If we had everyone to talk to, we wouldn't die". It's really terrible! It's so important to have a person who you can talk to. It's serious problem! And unfortunately, I don't have such person yet and sometimes it's really difficult for me to live and don't want to do it at all.
Amazing author, with very touched biography! He is my favourite! I advise you to read his psycological novels.
Thanks dear! Thanks for your time!
Hi!
ReplyDeleteGreat strong video! It reminds me Make It Stop by Rise Against. It´s also about bullying and it´s amazing in my opinion. Check it.
Matotu
Hi Anette,
ReplyDeleteI just want to tell you that I'm deeply moved by this video. As a teenager is see bullying is a big problem nowadays. Fortunately it doesn't happen in my class or among my friends anymore; however, I can't say that my school is free from bullying. The worst thing is that sometimes you even don't know that someone you know is a victim of bullying because she or he has never said about it because of feeling ashamed or even guilty! I have a friend living in another city who was bullying at her school and I discorever it months after it had sterted. Until now I regret I didn't see the problem earlier. As you said in one of your posts, Internet makes bullying even worse so we also have to use Internet to fight against bullying. Therefore
I really admire what you are doing to show your readers the problem of bullying and encourage them to react if they see that bullying happens in their environment.
I must say I really admire you both as a singer ans as a person with great personality and a big heart. I wish you all the best and hope to hear your solo album one day.
Have a nice day!
Hello!
ReplyDeleteTo be honest when I found out that you had a personal blog I was a bit skepcital to check it out, but for this reason right here I am very glad. I was bullied often as a child, even at a very young age; Probably starting at around six or seven. I was often picked on because of my weight which eventually led to an eating disorder and self mutilation, none of which I am proud about. As I got older it only got worse and the abuse followed me not only in school but also in other aspects of my life. I fell victim to the things a lot of women deal with and was sexually abused numerous times but too afraid to speak out because of it. But, as you often say, there was someone there to save my life. Or in this case something. Around the time it started I began taking piano lessons and later developed a deep rooted passion for music that I still carry today. I've grown out of that timid shell I once carried and now use my own music in an attempt to reach out to others.
You have inspired so many people and I doubt you could ever understand completely how much we thank you; I can only hope that one day I touch as many lives as you have.
You really are an idol, not only to young women such as myself but to many many others.
Continue the good fight Anette because we are all behind you. :)
Hej Anette!
ReplyDeleteDen här videon träffade mig rakt i hjärtat, speciellt slutet då ens bästa vän dyker upp och räddar en.
Sen jag berättade för min bästa vän hur nära jag var att ta livet av mig har hon alltid varit där för mig. Varje gång tanken/känslan dyker upp att allt skulle kännas bättre om jag tog mitt liv, ringer jag min vän och hon lugnar snabbt ner mig.
Sen gör jag samma sak för henne när hon känner sig nere.
Jag kunde inte ha hittat en bättre vän, hon betyder allt för mig :)
Ha en bra dag!
//Ellinor
Great song that makes me cry... Thanks for sharing.
ReplyDeleteHello Anette!
ReplyDeleteI agree with you! Sometimes the only think we need is to talk or be with a friend. Now one of my deares friend is 650 kms away from me. I miss her so much and I'd like to go out with her to talk a little bit. Thanks God we have Skype so we can talk there.
And of course when a friend need help we must give him/her the help.
Take care
I personally won't tolerate idiots who think I should have to change to either be their friend, or anything like that.
ReplyDeleteAnd I have to say, my best friends are very much a reason as to why I'm still alive, or at least why I never attempted suicide. I am very lucky that my friends are absolutely amazing, though most of my closest friends live a long way away from me, but I have some understanding friends where I live, and it does help a lot with some things :), I also try my best to be there for them. But this really makes me think of the lyrics from Iron Maiden's Reincarnation of Benjamin Breeg, 'Someone to save me, something to save me from myself, to bring salvation to exorcise this hell'.
My attitude in general regarding people is that I don't give a sh*t if someone doesn't like me for how I am, I am who I am, and I am happy with that, and I sure as hell won't tolerate some wanker telling me I need to change.
Really love seeing you posting about issues like this, keep it up :)
And take care now :)
xo
That's one of my favorite songs :')
ReplyDeleteIt's amazing that I see this song on your blog! It's one of my favorite songs, and I can dedicate it to so many people that just simply need to ask for some help...Whether or not they do, though, help always comes. :)
ReplyDeleteHi Anette!
ReplyDeleteI don't know what to say this is very impressive, I mean this video at the beginning shows sadly the reality, but also shows that a true friend ( or any person in the street can, because receive a smile of a stranger also is amazing ) can change that bad reality.
Thanks for share this, I'm going to share it in Twitter, because I think is important make campaign againts bullying!
Have a nice nice day!
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ReplyDeleteHope this bullying thing someday will be over or hope people can deal with it and become stroger =)
ReplyDeleteWow, this is such strong and touching video and I really conected with it, brought tears to my eyes to tell you the truth!
It show exactly how it is, show exactly how someone can make the difference, and there's people like that, is because of this that I sometimes i still believe in the humanity. I've never been bullied, but I did had a different kind of problem that made me wish almost every single day that I was dead, i felt dirty, disgusting, I was depressive, I didn't wanna leave my house, I didn't wanna talk with people and to make things better, I don't have my parents near me, my mother live in another city and my father live with his GF so, they didn't know what was going on with me and even if we lived together I would never talk about because I was so ashamed of myself, thank god I had this angel in my life ( my superior from previous work that i mentioned when you did the post about bullying at work place ) and If I'm here today is because of her, as much as I said that I didn't wanna talk with her, I didn't wanna her at my place, she NEVER left me, she never walked away from me and left me alone to deal with my problems.. I'm very closed person, I usually don't talk about my feelings, so when this thing happened to me I was even more ' cold ' person, and when she came to visit me saying ' talk with me' I got SOOOO angry and I always started yelling at her that I didn't wanna talk and blablabla and she always said to me I know you don't wanna talk but I gonna be here until you WANNA talk because i'm not leaving you alone, PERIOD.. and that was it, we lie on the floor for hours and hours in the silence, and I felt good because I knew there was someone there for me, day by day she was there and I'm so thankfull for this girl, That's why when I see someone has a emotional problem, I do anything I can to help, because I've been there and I know that sometimes you don't even have to talk, give advices or whatever..but just be there, quiet, by their side... There is way out for everything in this world and there's always someone you can't imagine that worries about you more than you think!
It happened a while ago but I've never talked about it with anyone else than her .. I think write makes it much easier but still I feel so much lighter after this comment haha !
Nice saturday to you my lady,
<3
HI :)
ReplyDeleteOh bullying... This is what I hate the most! A month ago, my brother and I went to school and in front of the school pupils are always smoking. So, one student asked my brother: do you have a cigarette? and he said that he didn't have. We went in the school and he came behind us and he started to pushing my brother and then came his frend and he was so violent. Nobody didn't do anything and then I stopped him because he will hit my brother. Then we told to the principal what happened and he doesn't do that anymore. What can happened with cigarettes uuuuh -.-
Hug from Croatia, Marija
Thanks for posting Annette. There is a great message here. You can really help someone just by being a friend. Make it a point to be there for someone.
ReplyDeleteAlso, especially for any teenagers out there - be careful of your actions! You may be taking part in bullying someone without really realizing you are. When you are making jokes at someone else's expense take a moment to look at it from their perspective. It may seem all in fun to you, but it could be tormenting them.
Be kind to one another - it goes far!
Looking forward to hearing some music from you again in the future too Annette! Let us know when you have plans to release something.
I had never seen this video up until now.And wow,besides the song being amazing (and it rarely happens,that I like male voices!),this video is one of the most powerful things I've ever seen.I have to admit it was quite triggering,but I believe that's what makes it so strong and why it has such an impact on people.It shows things exactly how they are,and yet it gives a positive and message:help.Most of the times,when the media talk about suicide,they don't talk directly,and they try to not even use the word 'suicide'.because it feels final and sad.But that's how it is!The fact is that everybody things that depression equals being sad.It doesn't.It's much worse than that,it often even ends up not only ruining someone's mental,but also physical health.And when a person is depressed,anything,even the smallest of gestures or words,can tear them apart.That's the reason why we need awarness and people should join projects such as the video above.Helping someone who's depressed isn't easy (I can see it from my friends' faces),but it's the only thing one can do.It's an actual journey,and it's hard work:I've been cold with people who've tried to lend me a hand,because at times I simply wish I could go down and let this pain take me over.But this doesn't mean that being 'there' won't pay you back.In fact,it means way more than the helper could ever imagine - being showed that someone cares,that someone wants to help you out,that someone wants to make you happy and cheer you up;well,that's something so touching and comforting,I can barely describe it.It's a very good feeling,and at times it can be the only thing that makes a person go on.Suicidal thoughts are serious and can't be underrated.Saying 'Just be happy!' isn't the solution - staying by the person's side,that's what counts.Not judging,but being ready to listen,care,accept and hug.
ReplyDeleteFor personal experience:at times,the only thing the victim has and needs,is a friend.Out of my 5 suicide attempts,only one caught my parents' attention,and they even decided to believe it was all a 'misunderstanding between' me and my friend.On the other hand,though,I'm lucky I have a group of friends that want to help me.In both real life and online.Because why,yes,online friendships are strong,deep bounds too,and they can save,just like real life friendships.
So yes,if anyone ever feels the need to talk to someone,I'm right here.
Once again,I thank you for how sweet hearted you are,and for how much you care about these issues.I wish you didn't have to go through this yourself,I wish you didn't have to have experience this on your own skin,but I'm glad you're with us,sharing this message.
I love you more than words could ever possibly say,and all you've done for me,without even knowing it,it's something I won't ever be able to forget.
Thank you.
At the end of the video I started crying...It's so strong. Dunno what to say...After all of those thing those two guys got out alive of a hell because of the help of a friend...It's sad to see that in reality most of the times things don't go this way.Not always the people you love can see what's happening to you, and leave you alone...sometimes this hurts more than everything else: to see that everyone you trusted before cannot see what's inside of you for real, the hell in which you're living.
ReplyDeleteI think that people and friends aren't always the way to escape all this mess...you can find a new life in something else, and stop waiting for someone that will never save you for real...You can discover something you can live for, something that makes you feel alive...
Here's a song which helped me a lot in the past...hope you'll enjoy it, and understand what I mean..:).
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lL2ZwXj1tXM
Vermillion hope: Hi and thanks for your very wise words;=) yeah, I think the most important way is to love yourself and know that you are OK no matter what anyone else says to you. But since that is not the easiest thing for everyone to do, a friend who can love you for what you are, or a family that listens to you and don't believe you when you "act" happy. To see through a depressed person is really important to stop suicides from happening cause when a person is depressed the darkness is so big that its hard to see any shed of light in the tunnel. And thats when someone needs to see that this person needs help before its to late! Sleep well and thanks again;=) I also get so sad by these videos and stories that I read and hear about, cause I´ve been there, and its memories I´ll always have inside. But its great that we talk about these things, it makes us see we are not alone;=)
ReplyDeleteThe dead unicorn; Hi and thanks to you too for your wise words and yes, I believe a friend, even if its through internet can help! And maybe its sometimes easier to write down those really hard and dark thoughts instead of saying them to someone, cause I have seen that some people can't handle when someone opens up about harder things. It can make them uncomfortable and also maybe they can't "listen" as deep as they might do if its the written word instead. What we do in here, in this blog, being a place where these things are talked about and also, where we can support each other through these hard times or talk about times that were hard once in our lives (cause I believe the scars are still there inside) can help and I am so thankful for all of you who opens up and talk and share your stories and for that I love you all too. So its a mutual thing and I do believe we can make this bigger and do more for others if we continue;=) Sleep really well;=)
Big D: You are so right! And not only our children need to think about being kind, adults too! The actions we do, as adults, gets an impact on our children. Sleep well;=)
Marija: Hi! yes, I hate it too and its so common today, everywhere. Sleep well!
Karoline; hi and thanks so much for your story. And you wrote what I also think: sometimes it´s easier to write down how we feel and therefore its great that we can do that in here. I also believe that the world is a cruel and cold place and the thing that always has kept me going are those "nice and kind" ones that are there. They show me that there´s hope in the dark and therefore I always kept going through this world. And every time I meet the darkness again I know where to find those nice ones in my life and they give me strength;=) And you in here are among those, so thanks;=) Sleep well!
Dalma; Hi and thanks so much;=) And I get so sad when I read how you´ve been treated. I can't understand adult people behaving like this! it just pisses me off!
But I am so happy that I did something good for you;=) Truly, I have never ever thought of that I can have some impact like this and one thing I´ve always felt in my life is that I want to have a job where I help people. Thats why I want to be a nurse. It doesn't feel that being a singer helps someone in any way. But now when I hear your story that really makes me warm and happy inside so THANK you, dear Dalma;) And as i`ve said: i love that you have red hair, be proud of it!! Sleep well;=)
July; Hi and great that you are sharing it on twitter;=) Thanks!
ReplyDeleteLesly: Hi! Its a great song and I thanks BigD for sharing this with me;=)
Sid: And now one of mine too;=)
Meghan; Hi and I agree - the best thing is to not give a f-cking damn about what others think about us;=) Not always easy but very true! Sleep well;=)
DarkQueen; Hi and sorry that your friend is so far away. But as you say, Skype is a salvation! On tour that kept me going;=)
Farandra: yeah, it hits straight to the stomach!
Ellinor: Hej och vad glad jag blir att du har en sådan fin vän och att ni finns där för varandra;=) Håll hårt i din vän! Sov gott;=)
Bandi: Hi and thanks so much for your kind words and also, for sharing your story! And as you, music has saved me so many times in life. And that is also a "friend" if you feel better from it;=) And no, I don't think I will never know or understand that I have had an impact, but if I had, that makes me really fulfilled cause that´s what I want to do in my life and always have wanted to do - help others.
Thanks again and sleep really well;=)
Moon; Hi and thanks for your wise words;=) And yes, sometimes we don't know that someone is being bullied or are harassed and thats so bad. Its not the bullied person who should be ashamed, its the one bullying. But I guess the bullied one feel weak and therefore ashamed to tell about it. But so untrue!
Thanks again and sleep really well;=)
Matotu: Hi and yeah, that one is also really good;=)
ReplyDeleteSerafim: Hi! No, I haven't heard off them. I will check it out, thanks! And yeah, horrible story they had;=(
Kaoru; Hi! Yes, I must say they have done a very hard video with a very hard subject and its really great that they did that! I applaud them for doing it!
Martin:; Hi! I also believe in karma and I also always try to turn the other cheap (but it can be VERY hard sometimes)! sleep well;=)
Mynta: Hi and nice to hear you had a nice evening with your friends;=) Enjoy tonight;=)
FFDP is a excelent band, Anette. They have so many "right in the feels" songs, my favorites are Hard to See, Far From Home and Remember Everything. It's a band that gave me a lot of strength in my bad days =)
ReplyDeleteHi Anette, you are one of my favorite singers! Your music helped me get through some of my "bad days." When I saw you for the first time at the Gibson Amphitheater in Los Angeles,CA, I sang my little heart out to every song you played, headbanged until my neck was sore and thought that was the greatest show! ♥
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for posting videos about bullying and why it is important to speak up, help someone in need or get help if you are being bullied.I have been bullied for most or majority of my life and the only thing that was truly there for me in times of need was music. I would escape into the world of music, let myself go and just feel the music in my soul. I truly believe that music saved me from my darkest moments and without music, I do not know where I would be. Thank you for being an inspiration to us all and so much more!
Another good band that wrote a song about bullying is "Bully" by Shinedown. It has a powerful message attached to it and great video too. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y7NVxAMQn_I&feature=share&list=PLD42F0DBE53E216AF
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